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You still look asian to me. regardless you just li...

2010-02-25T14:06:51.989-08:00

You still look asian to me. regardless you just like tons of asian females who marry into WHITE society

For someone who lived in an Arab country,looks lik...

2009-10-13T08:31:48.491-07:00

For someone who lived in an Arab country,looks like a Zoroastrian, is an Indian and has imbibed global values, the struggle is inevitable.
At times its the pressure of cultural rituals and at times its the desire to keep it all alive with mundane tasks.

you have very cute web site i like it. that is my ...

2009-08-23T03:35:38.774-07:00

you have very cute web site i like it.
that is my website http://allkindofbiryani.blogspot.com
from where you can make BIRYANI which is famouse food in asia.

I was more than happy to take my husband's surname...

2009-08-11T17:32:51.164-07:00

I was more than happy to take my husband's surname, but it felt so strange. When my new Social Security Card arrived I surprised myself by bursting into tears.

I have a family name that is hard to pronounce, es...

2009-08-11T14:29:31.602-07:00

I have a family name that is hard to pronounce, especially for foreigners. And it doesn't sound very nice. But whatevs. I'm stuck with it. We just can't always get what we want in life.

I'm half Chinese and half Japanese. All my life, I...

2009-08-11T13:11:02.777-07:00

I'm half Chinese and half Japanese. All my life, I've had people come up and say, "What are you?" I had a Chinese last name, but my mixed Asian ethnicity always challenged people because I didn't quite fit the mold of any "typical" Asian form.

I'm married to a man with an Irish name, and my first name just so happens to be a common Irish first name as well, so these days, people are surprised to see a non-distinct Asian woman with the name "Margaret Donnelly." I just tell them I'm "Far Eastern Irish." ;-)

I know it's probably a little late to influence yo...

2009-08-11T12:54:48.930-07:00

I know it's probably a little late to influence your decision now (given that you're tweeting through the labour of your first childbirth!) but perhaps incorporating a Japanese middle name into your child's name would be an appropriate nod to his/her - and your own. That way you can have your cake *and* eat it. :)

Hope it all goes well! Incidentally, you trended on Twitter on Tuesday like crazy. ;)

This is was my first time at your page. I love you...

2009-08-11T07:35:15.344-07:00

This is was my first time at your page. I love your post, you're a great writer. I can def. relate to your post. I grew up in white suburbia as a black girl. I moved to Chicago and all of a sudden I was "mixed with something" ... I didn't even know I was mixed with anything...

fyi: Can you imagine this is how I got here? Mashable - "CEO of Twitter's Wife Tweeting on her Labor" - then I went to see your tweets- then I see your site... i love the internet...sometimes it's actually worth following the path of logic when you land on blogs like yours.

What a wonderfully eloquent summation of what it i...

2009-08-11T06:07:28.646-07:00

What a wonderfully eloquent summation of what it is to be a modern ethnically mixed American. Bravo. Congratulations on the name change too. My wife also recently changed her name. She is Chinese, but now has a western last name. She now carries a strange collection of names, but she seems very satisfied with the result.

It is wierd to think of a world where you don't wa...

2009-08-04T23:01:23.013-07:00

It is wierd to think of a world where you don't wait everytime you meet someone new for the inevitable- "soooooo.....what are you?" being white, black and native and my business partner being white and chinese- i have started preparing opening line jokes to accompany the question to make life more amusing and perhaps even open people's eyes a little bit more.

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I can totally identify with being of mixed backgro...

2009-07-29T14:21:37.449-07:00

I can totally identify with being of mixed background. I'm Thai, Filipino, and Chinese myself. Everything you've written speaks to my experience.

You've articulated it very nicely.

I am inspired to share your post with others.

beautiful

2009-07-28T19:31:01.328-07:00

beautiful

How do you do? my twitter name is "ehubble1701" ...

2009-07-12T06:52:29.327-07:00

How do you do?
my twitter name is "ehubble1701"
I'm living in japan.
So i am not good at writing English. sorry.

I read your twitter profiles. so i jumped at this your blog here.
and i read your opinion of changing the name which women married.
i thought , ah,,so i am a man,,name after you married, not care so seriously.

This is my illustlation collection HP.
http://kiwbk.hp.infoseek.co.jp/ForPortrait/indexPort.html

see you next time.

Cheers to a beautiful bittersweet story. My gf sa...

2009-06-05T06:30:02.213-07:00

Cheers to a beautiful bittersweet story.

My gf said she would drop her last name completely only because it wouldn't work next to mine. I thought it made sense and wasn't offended.

I'm Jon (without the "h") I know how you feel. Y...

2009-05-08T21:30:00.000-07:00

I'm Jon (without the "h") I know how you feel. Your Starbucks cup caught my eye. The "h" thing has not been too bad for me. My Name issue is in having a nickname "Jody". Once I grew out of the (its a girls name) phase I grew into a life of ever explaining to IT my email should be Jody@ but to HR make the check out to Jon (w/out) the "h" and around and around "who's Jon" no I'm looking for "Jody" uggg. My point, don't nickname your child at birth. If you have to do it, wait until they have grown into the real name. Oh Yeah, I used say, "my Mom beat the H out of me when I was a kid"

lovely post i can relate too. i have one of those ...

2009-05-06T14:32:00.000-07:00

lovely post i can relate too. i have one of those "plain white names" and am attempting to establish it as my own, meaning something i can believe in. My wife is Korean, and i recall those conversations she kept all her names, as well as my son. that gives him four names and they are all beautiful. i find the displacement of a person's name to be odd, even though it's tradition. thanks.

it is bad for you that have changed your first nam...

2009-04-26T11:51:00.000-07:00

it is bad for you that have changed your first name becuse you have grew with your name in your life....

Sara, Since I moved to US 11 years ago, one thing ...

2009-04-20T00:03:00.000-07:00

Sara, Since I moved to US 11 years ago, one thing that I have never understood, is why women change their last names after marriage? I understand that this is a American tradition and its a sign of forming a special union, but do we follow all traditions handed to us by our previous generations, even when the personal costs are too high? if not, when do we make the call to stop trickling them down to the next generations?

To me, suffering an identity crises after marriage(& hopefully not in your case or mine, after each marriage or after each divorce) is one thing, but also having a tradition affecting your career and past connections is another.

Most male CEO's, Presidents, VP's authors, scientists, and artists, do not have to worry about their identity, social connections, and legacy, evaporating because of marriage or divorce.

Seriously, imagine the amount of damage changing one's last-name could have done to Allan Greenspan's and Albert Einstein's careers. Their published papers would be so hard to follow because they carried different last names at different times in their careers!! Or Imagine if a female US Senator decided to get a divorce one day, she would have to suffer major career damage(not only because divorce is not an acceptable by most constituents) but also because most people won't even recognize her name on the ballot next time around.

Great post. Name changes reach us deep down. I ha...

2009-04-09T20:32:00.000-07:00

Great post. Name changes reach us deep down. I haven't changed my name yet legally, which I can say isn't entirely my fault (we're coming up on our 8th anniversary!). I use his last name on everything but legal documents. I have good reason, though! He still hasn't completed his own name change documents from when he changed his last name to that of his biological father. Again, he uses the last name on everything except SSN documents. It would just be weird for me to change mine and we still have different last names!

~Shani

"A Rose by any other name ..."Just be thoughtful n...

2009-03-27T16:54:00.000-07:00

"A Rose by any other name ..."

Just be thoughtful naming the little Twitters when you decide to have kids. Our family of 4 has 3 diff last names = tricky, but fun.

Dear @sara,I wrote a post on changing my name from...

2009-03-21T15:30:00.000-07:00

Dear @sara,

I wrote a post on changing my name from Tara Brown to Tara Bonner. There were mixed reviews from women about changing it and not understanding why I would want to change my identity. I have a pretty plain last name but I'm from Canada not the US and for what ever reason it makes me feel more connected to my family to have the same last name. At the same time I think I will feel more connected to Sean if I change mine to match his.

I still don't know what I'm going to do but at the very least my initials will remain the same if I do it, and my twitter name doesn't include a last name. :)

@tara

And then there are those who marry into the ethnic...

2009-03-12T09:40:00.000-07:00

And then there are those who marry into the ethnic surname. Apparently I kept my maiden name and at the time it was a bold move.

Interesting surname. Sounds a lot like "hourglass"...

2009-02-05T07:54:00.000-08:00

Interesting surname. Sounds a lot like "hourglass" in Korea: moreh = sand, shigeh = clock. Phonetically, it's pronounced MO-REH-SHEE-GEH. Dunno if that sounds like your last name or not...

Hey Sara. Love your writing. I know exactly how i...

2009-01-31T20:35:00.000-08:00

Hey Sara. Love your writing. I know exactly how it's like re: being Asian American. I was only there for 4 years though. But I truly believe in embracing your culture. In your case being a Chijacan sounds awesome.

And finally, congrats!

-Vince Wong
@hongkongwong on Twitter